Greettings to you all again!
I trust that my post finds you well and strong, its April already and I just have to say Im thankful to have got here. The first quarter of the year has been interesting and sometimes tragic. The Floods, Gay Marriage Legalisation, T-the disappearance of the Malaysian Flight, The Crimea take over by Russia etc.
With all these things happening you would think that marriage is not as important but when you look closely at all the issues mentioned above you will soon see that marriage is part of human tapestry, marriages and families are affected in all the issues I have mentioned above. That being said I want to encourage you that “Marriage Without Tears” possible. Hear me out.. I think it is possible, I do not suggest that you will not cry in your marriage but it should happen far and inbetween. You should cry tears of joy more than tears of sorrow. Whoever you choose to be with in life should be a reflection of this thought.
That being said you know my wife Lola and I travelled to Coventry recently for the Kicking It The Vito’s “Marriage Without Tears” seminar organised by the wonderful Youth of Jubilee Christian Centre. It was a long journey but a fruitful one. We even have an Audio recording of what we spoke about.
We spoke to those who are single and trying to connect with good men and women and stipulated the position and a standard of behaviour needed to meet and keep a marriage partner. We spoke about the fact that Marriage without Tears starts with the person you are and then its affected the person you choose to walk with on that journey and purpose for which you remain with that person.
It is unfortunate that most people regard their choice of partner as bad only after they have been involved deeply, sexually, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. After suffering they then conclude the person was bad. Our conversation was more around the prevention of bad relationships and the damage they inflict on people. We made the men aware that they were Kings and Women in the Royalty. Theres nothing wrong with placing a standard of behavior when a man or woman know they are in the right place.
Doing the right thing from the wrong position can be considered an offence. So I want to implore you to get to one of our seminars and get ready for the real relationship you need and keep it growing if you are already in the right sitaution. With hearing that you should know that there is no point in tolerating the wrong relationship and expecting some kind of turn or positive change in events.
Upon later reflection Lola and I have begun to realise that a good marriage starts with well informed decisions, and is back up by the proof that you both provide to solidify its existance. We are also finding that our Faith is the bedrock on which we can comfortably discuss and ultimately live the purpose of our friendship and marriage. Everyday I remain greatful about who I am and the one I am with because of the The One who made us. Im not about to give that up because of how others feel.
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