Womanhood Notes: Essential Qualities Part 2

Self Control

Another quality that powerful women in any situation and time of life should have is self control. In my last piece on this subject I spoke about patience. The importance of “self control” is no less important. As an influential woman please understand that, power is destructive in a woman who has no self control. A lot of women have become what they had not planned because of a lack of self control or in some cases too much of it. Some influential women justify their singleness and independence while in the 40s however simultaneously they wish they had a husband and children to share the material success they now have. I worry a lot for influential women who today aspire only for material success in the early days of their lives because they have forgotten the importance of the other roles that they can do so well.


We also have young women in their Teens and 20s upwards giving away their bodies or images of them, their souls or fragments of them and self respect to undeveloped men with false self esteem. In absence of self control a woman is slave to the desires of her body. Feeding feelings like Sex(Body Touch), Shopping(Acquiring possessions), Exhibitionism(Peoples adoration). All of which are not wrong when they happen in the right time and circumstance but when they become the source of a woman’s worth trouble is not far away.


On the Subject of relationships
Some women allow their personality to be raided by strange men, strange women, wrong bosses and even wrong industries. Having allowed their lusts for power to be More important than what they know to be morally right they give away the substance of truth for 15minutes fame, 15minutes of Sex, and Even 15 years of Marriage & Motherhood.

Statistically it has been proven that if a man can sleep with you on the first date, it’s highly likely that relationship is going to end before it even begins, because a real man prefers a woman with self control. Remember all good men are looking for a woman who can manage her urges and dreams to acquire what will give long lasting satisfaction (Being a Virtuous Wife, and An honourable Mother). Never for a second assume that a lapse in moral truth does not have its long term consequences..

Influential women must understand that self control can be balanced out. On the other hand some women are so controlled that they cannot show or express love to their husband but lacked self control when they were about the town or visiting ibiza or Magaluf. Some women cannot be cheerful because they believe expressions of joy must always be kept under wraps.

In conclusion Self control is a tool to filter out the unwanted things from your path in life but it should not become a hindrance to finding and experiencing the right kind of love. Discern and measure your ways and standards before they are so extreme only you can live within the walls you have created.


All things said with Love and Respect
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5 Things That Can Break A Man

5 Things That Can Break a Man

Every man has the opportunity and choice to live a life worth noting or taking notes from. Most of us prefer to learn from things that make people successful but we constantly over look the things that make men fail. Everything we consider to be Success is subject to personal opinion and perception but here is the thing, few men know the things that will tear down their success should they attain it because people don’t always emphasis the character necessary to keep it. Here is a list of things that that have been found to kill, steal or destroy your success.

1) Frequently Lusting for lots of women and refusing to commit to the right woman. When a man is not settled on the kind of woman he will be with for the rest of his life it is highly likely that he will experiment with many women in order to fill the gap. The absence of a good woman or the silence of a good woman or even harming good women, can have a detrimental effect on a mans mindset. Most times you don’t know what’s broken until you actually become faithful. A lustful life may be self justified in your eyes until you’re looking for a more dependable relationship.

2) Putting your Integrity up for sale:- Its more than a physical offer. For a man to drop his guard, most times the promise of prestige, respect, riches& women can be a mans downfall. Men crave respect and anything that brings it quickly, they would willingly trade they’re integrity for. How often do men sell their integrity for that” 15mins of Fame” “Or one Night with that girl”, the effects of which can last for years but inwardly tear their psyche apart. Most never realise that they have subconsciously sold their soul, until Everything is gone. Remember without integrity,
(The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.) Any success you have over yourself can be snatched away in a moment. With all your endeavors and aspirations always keep integrity close, protect your heart as a man and keep your honor. It is your greatest treasure

3) Indecision: A man undecided is a man compromised. A man compromised is a dangerous man to be around. If you have ever hung around indecisive men you will know that the lack of decision concerning anything can make or break the respect you have for them. Left to “indecision” men will drown and never overcome anything in their lives.A successful man who arrives at a junction in his life and refuses to make a forward thinking decision will be the victim of unforeseen trouble. If you don’t know what you’re going to do next always revisit your initial goals and adjust as necessary. With no goals or personal development “Indecision” can spell the end of your life before its time…

4) Adulterating Yourself
“Render (something) poorer in quality by adding another substance, typically an inferior one.” Most men know when they are mixing themselves with something less than the right standard but unless something drastic happens, like loosing your marriage, loosing your business, loosing your house, loosing your children, you don’t do anything to stop. It could be bad friendships, bad relationships or even unforgiveness. Keeping yourself clear of adulteration is really an act of discernment on a mans part. Consistent failure to do this usually leaves room for “evil” in it’s most alluring forms to enter and snatch away the purity of your conscience and contaminate your heart.

5) Poor Reactions in relation to (Self Control)
Poor reactions in important situations can mean the break down of a man.
Life always presents situations to us where we are to react in order to protect, or counter, or reverse or even change entire circumstances but a poor reaction can really be a life and death situation. As a man, poor reaction can mean you striking the woman you love, or going off on one because you have the facts wrong or saying words that you can’t take back. The ultimate outcome usually ends up something you regret in life. No one can ever preempt their reactions to anything but always be determined to remain in control of your actions.

Let me be clear, every man rich or poor, successful or aspiring for greater success must remain responsible for his own life. He should keep his lusts in check, invest in rather than sell his integrity, be decisive and active about his his life, refuse to degrade himself for temporary pleasures and make sure that self control is applied in all things pertaining to life.

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