Kicking It With A King (Podcast)

So the other day my friend was talking about how I should start a Podcast seeing as there is something in me speaking. I took on the challenge and decided to call it Kicking It With A King! I wanted this to mean something to everything I do with and have become with the people God has bless me with.

I don’t seek to dominate people but more Cultivate people for greatness! So with that said enjoy the podcasts as they come through!

Im definitely looking forward to doing more and who knows I would like to get some guests in. In the meantime lets put that foundation in place.

Among other things I do Youtube stuffs lool.

King Vito Speaks

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjtH4GUkSHdogrIBeFnXpNw

Enjoy!

You Have Things To Do

Whether its getting those grades or making that career move or making the gradaul transition into your newest entrepreneurial venture even finding love or getting over the hurt of a failed love. Always remember you have something great to do.

Beware of the paralysis that can come with fear of missing the mark in whatever goal you set for yourself.

Your goals can be intimidating majorly because they mean you having to change habits that have got you by but not made you fly. However with a change in habits will come a new perspective. There will be clarity of what more can be done with the time you have.

Use your time to excel and make meaningful moves. Read books for the areas of your ignorance
, ask questions to mentors in the area of your ventures, ask for help in the area of your limitation and ask for a team when the task requires more than the strength of one man. In the process I ask that you don’t ignore your desire for fulfilment. Dont ignore the values that keep you down to earth when your world is upside down. Your values affect choices abd choices affect outcomes and outcomes reflect true success.

So although you have things to do make sure you live life in the process of doing rather than skip life because of what you are doing.

Heres to doing whats worth it and what meaningful.

Peace &  Love

Mr Vito Speaks

Are They Pressing Your Buttons?

Too often a lot of us are frustrated with the way our lives are going but we constantly overlook the fact that we stopped being able to act on the truth we know after we gave away our self control to someone else and now we are remotely controlled by them.

Many of us cant and wont take responsibility for ourselves because someone else now has the pleasure of deciding our fate no matter how far away they are from us. Far away from the heart but close enough to cut the veins.

You really want to stop the ups and downs of emotional rollercoasters that involve you? Then take back your strength from the people sucking you lifeless with endless mind control tactics. Its constantly left you feeling exhausted,  depressed and for the most part of your year mentally ill.

Your true friends dont, can’t even know you anymore as you are turning into a shadow of your former self and your tongue is full of hopelessness and at best “hopefully”.  You used to be definite and focused but now youre divided a conquered. A city without adequate guards or watchful people.

“No” is your first word and “more” is the second word that must follow closely.

NO MORE “remotely controlling behaviour”

NO MORE “Loveless communications”

NO MORE “Mopping Up After Messy Inconsiderate children in the bodies of adults”

NO MORE!

You dont need anyone to tell you anything more as you can already feel the frustration is driving you insane and instead of literally Killing your self. Take a hold of your self,  strengthen your faith and your mind and break the remote control today!

Have A Good Day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Stop Pretending and Get Help

You know I don’t know how long people can ignore things that need to be talked about but I for one would prefer to discuss it before it becomes the storm I will be swept away by. So many of us really could be better people by now by, dealing with the wounds of the soul with care, dignity and urgency. When you are injured and maybe even see a hint of blood you think to yourself “I need to go to the A & E to make sure nothings broken.” If only we behaved in the same way when it comes to our emotional injuries, mental injuries we would heal quickly and be even more satisfied as people. When will make it a point tl ensure that nothing inside is broken?

Unfortunately most of us take out eyes off the ball of resolving internal conflicts and traumas until of course they start showing up in the things we do on a daily basis. Women who refuse to acknowledge the importance of men because even their fathers we absent or lacked presence in the home. Men who can’t bring themselves to the alter to marry out of concern that they too will bail out on an actual family because Dad did the same. Most people do nothing until it begins to tear apart their loved ones and literally creates casualties out of well meaning relationships and well placed opportunities.

Yes ladies and gentlemen please understand that when what lies beneath remains lies beneath.
We are slowly poisoning the source of our joys, strengths, abilities, connections and soon it will make itself known in some way shape or form.

While you fail, neglect, refuse, and reject to address your issues with some true conversation and therapy you are creating something in you you will either be ashamed of or will literally troll your successes.

Folks who are in denial are the hardest to deal with. They deny that something is bubbling over into another thing. They create lethal friendship connections, faulty relationships with the opposite sex and are just never available enough for actual transformation. They are the people who respond last minute to the storm warnings. They are the ones who devastate others way more and in so doing their most decisive tool is pretending they are actually OK when everything about them will KO the next vulnerable person around them in some way shape or form.
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Please stop pretending and get the help you need PRONTO!.

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

The Choices We Make

Today I want to touch on the fact that we all have choices or decisions to make when it comes to our everyday living. As of recent as I journey more into what I love doing along with meeting with very interesting and highly influential people, from the depths of me I can testify that the decisions we make under the influence of our destiny will ultimately affect how long we continue to fulfil destiny for.

DECISION a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration

Before we get into our element of achievement or momentum of success we may be consistently apprehensive and unclear about the impact of our decisions on the course of events. However as soon as we get in the zone every decision matters. Every decision connects to our self discipline, exposes our gifts that bit more. It makes us a force to be reckoned with.

Our decisions formulate the engine of our successes and if we are not in the mind of mindfully minding our decisions then we always risk disrupting the progress we are destined for.

I get this feeling that some of us have really taken our decisions for granted expecting that everything will work out for us even though we are constantly making bad decisions. My word of caution to you is that you need to sit up when the lessons of life are showing you its time to change your ways.

There is a saying that goes

“A WISE man sees trouble ahead of time and avoids it, but a foolish man walks on and is punished for it”

Rigjtly so there is a divine  element  that embellish the wise decisions we make but divine  enablment will never make up for poor mistakes. Indeed the absence of well thought out decisions always leads to disappointment and I want to challenge you to treasure your self enough to consider the true cost of your decisions and the impact they will have on the future you want.

Have A Good Day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Do You Need To Wait Or Stop?

Did you know that there is a difference between stopping and waiting in life? Some people think the two words mean the same but actually they are different in what they are asking you to do.

When I tell you to stop it means be stationery and cease what you are doing. This means your hopes of moving are in control of whoever has told you to stop and its likely you don’t really have the say in when you can be on the go again or if at all you will be on the go again.

When I tell you to wait Im actually asking you to pause with an anticipation that your moment to go can come any second. Im saying be ready to go at a moments notice. To wait is very strategic. It requires patience and a whole set of skills that come with maturity to wait and be successful doing exactly just that waiting.

Today  I want to say, there is a difference between some one telling you to stop what you are doing with your life and someome telling you to wait. So many of us are guilty of misinterpreting the word wait and thinking it means stop and that we must never do that thing again.

When your teacher told you to stop doing something it means that they dont want that thing to happen again. A truly good teacher would see how your actions are ruining the classes chance of reaching the Learning objectives.

When your teacher tells you to wait it suggests that you can and should anticipate that there will be a moment you can do that very thing you desire to do just not yet.

Overtime I have realised that immature people need to be told to stop all the time because even their most well meaning actions can cause heart ache and discomfort in themselves,  the people they love and the bigger picture, in the same vein mature people only need to be told to wait.  You see mature people consider all the things Ive just mentioned above and instead of misbehaving out of impatience they choose a stance that enables them to rise up to the occasion as opposed to stumping their feet in protest or acting out of frustration.

Basically if you cant be told to wait then you have a lot of growing up to do. If you can’t be told to stop and the word stop doesn’t even make sense to you then there are serious discipline issues that need to be resolved before you can be trusted to wait and move when the time is right.

Today ask yourself what are you being told to do more of. STOP OR WAIT.

Stop means – “What you are doing right now could ruin your bigger picture and the lives of others”

Wait means – “I know you can see the bigger picture and what you are about to do could really build a better future but your timing must be precise”

Have a good day..

@MrVitoSpeaks

Detours and Setbacks

@drantwi "your detours can cost you more than you bargained for." It could be your time, it could be your years and it could be your life.

— Mr Vito (@MrVitoSpeaks) September 13, 2015

I particularly like this thought so much I had to tweet it. As a man I believe in integrity and sticking to your guns when it comes to the things you believe in especially if the things you believe in are beneficial not just to yourself but others. I don’t know if this has ever happened to you but to be honest it has to me.

I have on many occasions taken detours from clear Vision to may be help a friend, save a girlfriend, live another mans dream, sacrificed my usefulness to useless endeavours and to be straight with you, I ended up paying untold costs in time, money, relationships and other things. All because I didn’t stick to my Vision.

What if I had soldiered through or away from the distractions? I perhaps wouldn’t have spent as much time following after such things.

The friend I was distracted by is now a frienemy! The girlfriend I tried to save went into the arms of another man, my energies used turned into regrets instead of actual usefulness to who I have become today. There are those of you who will defend your detours but its because you can justify the fun but you cant justify its role in your purpose. What you think is growth and being more accommodating is actually a slow form of bitterness that has lead to you trusting people less, giving up on genuine people, hurting others because the situation ships you detoured for disappointed you and you’re out here still looking for a Breakthrough because you took a break when you should have just walked through.

We at all times should take responsibility for our actions and also afford blame and appropriate crimes to the right perpetrators. This includes self

When you do this you will have a better sense of peace and focus. I am in no way suggesting you blame everyone else and leave yourself out but I am suggesting that as you refocus understand now more than ever that your detours can cost you dearly so when a situation or relationship arises that requires your time, resource, commitment, availability, Love, money and connections ask yourself will this be a necessary step or a costly detour?

#THINKABOUTIT

Meanwhile since refocusing I feel my sense of purpose is less distracted and the greatness can be freely extracted I trust that the same will happen for you as you consider your detours and how you will deal with them the next time they arise.

#BackToVision #BackToBusiness

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Are you ignoring the Learning signs?

Its there its obvious,  the lesson you are supposed to learn but you are way too busy ignorong the signs because you don’t think they are divine enough. Well longer you ignore the obvious the closer embarrassment and humiliation get.

When the writings on the wall is the time youre supposed to be least resistant to the truth.  Ironically thats when most girls cant say the relationship is not going the way it needs to. That’s when the nice guy sticks his hands up in love while his girlfriend meets another man.

Power to learn and act is always available but for as long as we allow willful blindness to feed our naivity the pain will not come to an end and neither will the right course of action overcome our fears.

Some people are taking too long to learn the lesson and thus the lesson that was supposed to last a season becomes a thorn in their side that never lets them rest.

If you value your peace and sanity you will be quick to learn, wise to act and peaceful in the end. Theres always a mlre difficult way. I want to encourage you to take the road less traveled.

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Are you a true Friend or Nah?

Did you know in life you cant force friendships? You cant keep rolling in friend circles that only spread rumor and bad vibes about you but cant speak to you in honesty and love. You cant keep following people who dont have a lifting power about them. Im not saying that your friends should be your fans but they must certainly must have your back and prepare to risk everything to ensure you become amazing even with out them.

Loyalty and progress go hand in hand but guess what so does loyalty and stagnation. Sometimes in being loyal to twisted and ill evidenced values you strangle what’s actually possible for your own life.

Your friends and ambitions really do have to be in the same place and you have to think and lool closely will this connection bring the fire of determination or the fire of wrath.

In the first fire you will find that you and your friends are aiming for a similar cause therefore like gym buddies you have someone to help you lift the weight off you when you need them to during training.  The other fire is the same passion but you end up being bitter about yourself and doing less with what has been given to you. In fact that friendship leaves a bitter taste in your mouth as you constantly question the reason for the friendship if it does nothing but bring misery you  cannot speak up about because of the Fear of Losing your friends loyalty.

You may not immediately see what i mean by wrath but trust me when I say that your true friends with the right mind state will bring out the best in you and of course the wrong friends will bring out the wrath in you.

A true friend may wound you to stop you going on a path of self destruction and risk even their reputation to save you from your hand made hell so i want to advise you not take offence but let the good friend in and see the bad friend out.

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Man Thoughts: The Integrity of My People

“My integrity will take me a long way.
But our integrity will lift us out of the Miry Clay of Corruption.”- Martin Vito

If you are someone who walks in integrity, I urge you persist on that path. There is plenty of light in that kind of tunnel. The first light is you and the second is the people that you choose to walk, talk and do business with. Diaspora Africans have a challenge on their hands when it comes to believing in and supporting one another. Due to reasons owing to the economic climate we are forced to constantly surf over the depth of our personal and collective insecurities when it comes to matters of trust. We fear back stabbers, gold diggers, oppportunists, frienemies and adulterers in various forms. Sometimes it seems we would rather fear them or become them. In reality we have to confront them.

We cannot even speak long enough about our social ills before someone starts showing off about their personal achievements and attainments that only conclude on the note of personal glory. In that personal story no one else is included, no flag can be raised and no true honour can be awarded because our efforts are for selfish gain and not collective establishment of a decent vantage point. Our brand of teamwork is constantly laced with selfish ambition. The corruptions of the few become the corruptions of the many when we say nothing.

Our Family structures are riddled with secrets of things no one ever talks about. When will we ask ourselves the deeper questions about where we came from and whats resident in our DNA? Is my selfish ambition, emotional dysfunction, sexual addiction, impenetrable pride, pornographic desire a condition imposed on me by the nation I am in or a descendant of my “unknown” ancestors? If it is a combination of the two then I must weed out what is in me and spread the message of that clearance.

At some stage someone will have to ask the pertinent question about personal Family History before they ask us about National History. Secondary to that question should be where does my Family sit in connection to the history of my nation of origin.

The answers to these very two questions will start an avalanche of drive and courage to correct the wrongs passed on through ignorance and write the story that best reflects a heart sobered by deep discovery.

©Martin Vito 2014
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