Your Relationship & Honesty

“We never know the power of a lie until the truth comes” –@MrVitoSpeaks

Human beings cannot be faulted for believing what other people tell them. Words are designed to form and inform, inspire and break down complicated things.
The problem in most situations is when a human being abuses the trust they are honoured with and make people believe in a lie for personal gain or covering up an action that they should take responsibility for openly.
Have you ever made a decision based on someone’s convincing lie? How often do you feel like a fool when the truth comes? It happens everyday, people lie or omit the truth or neglect a crucial area of information which would complete the truth and help you , all this is in order to look good but the truth comes out and then everything ever said before is questioned. Trust is abused often, and what may have taken years to build is lost in a matter of minutes.

That being said there are some things I find integral to any kind of relationship surviving the tests of depraved human lies. I believe this is beneficial to the love relationship.


Honesty:- Show me a situation that is void of the crucial truth and it is likely that the demise of that situation, institution, relationship is imminent.
When you are in a relationship and it is not founded on honesty, the lies will eventually crumble under the immense weight of Genuine responsibility. Honesty is a foundational element of all your interactions. Lies are like Dynamite sticks in a cave they are hidden from plain sight, however when they blow up everything in that cave will come crashing down. So part of your personal development should be in getting use to being honest and also taking responsibility for the dumb things you do before the truth comes and destroys the things that you should actually be treasuring as much as you do your self.

Please understand that a legacy built on dishonesty will eventually be undone even if it out lasted the generation in which it was told.

In the advent of Love:- Remember that when Love is on the cards you and that other person are mutually responsible for the things that you say and do in the foundation of your love. Recognise that all that you say, or don’t say can come into play months or even years into the relationship.
So Honesty about everything should be the policy.
It promotes that kind of Adam and Eve Nakedness, just don’t let the cunning serpent make you lie to your partner. 😉

All things said with Love and Respect
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Love & Purpose: Men and Their Leagues

Theres different leagues of men. Each League has a different attitude towards love and purpose.

Premier League
Division One
Division Two
Division Three


1) In the Premier League This mans knowledge of his Purpose creates and maintains a place where Love can exist. The man in this league wants a woman to take the journey with him not just spend the night. The rules and self discipline for him are different. Sex is not until marriage. Now although some men Live in this league others pop in and out as an when their feelings take over. It is this inconsistency that causes good women to relegate him..
Rules for relegation include
A) Unfaithful.
B) Poor Emotions Management.
C) Refusing to Address the important things crucial to maintenance.
D) Poor Self Outlook
E) Love that Promises to but never KEEPS you secure(No Matter what You Try)

2) Division 1
This kind of man will get with a partner, have sex, claim to fall in love, accidentally gets committed to the relationship. He reluctantly follows the natural path of a relationship but he is not interested in marriage with you for one reason or the other, He would accept buying a house with you and living together for about 10-15years then get married after the 3rd Child. The relationship is filled with break ups and make ups. Possibly children with other women and affairs.
His children are likely to follow the same example as they did not see marriage but a slightly volatile version of togetherness.

3)Division 2
Is strictly for “Causal Relationships” and “casual dating”
Sex is the norm and this man is part of a network of people that dont know what love is only see sex first and details later. For this kind of man if sex is not provided then he will look elsewhere.. But if they liked how they were getting it from the women, then they may be back for more.. But this kind of man is only in it because of what he can get not because of Love and Dedication. This kind of man leaves the woman lacking a relationship. The woman involved falls in what she thinks is love but this man will not be there to catch her heart because he is only thrilled by the chase and hates the status.

4)Division 3
In this league its okay to kiss whoever, whenever, that kind of Jeremy Kyle lifestyle “Don’t know if that’s My Son”. A relationship with man is not permitted but girls still do it anyway. He does what he pleases when he pleases.. He has no other aspiration but to test drive every woman he can before he comes to his senses. Hes down for the nights but hes never there in the morning. Is in a different bed every week and sees him self as a man slut by profession. Dresses well because his life is empty without a sexual prize..

Every woman now has choice as to which man they will allow in. Your consciousness of league determines what you allow in. You decide on where your life will end up and with whom. Women who get swept up by any man in any league are likely to be swapped between leagues and never find true happiness with one partner. Until they manage to catch the “MATCH OF THE DAY” unfortunately this is the kind of woman who wants her version of a good man trapped in a bad boys image. Everything is an experiment with this woman.

The truth is you never have to sell yourself to the man who deserves you. When he approaches he will be and remain what he needs to be to bring the peace required to down the aisle and stay in the aisle with you for Life.

All things said with Love and Respect
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